Choices, or the lack thereof

20 Apr

It’s been months since I’ve posted.  I know, I’m a slacker.  Although I had many great posts run through my head from time to time, this blog was not high on my priority list as far as actually taking the time to sit down and type out those thoughts.

There are so many things going on in our life right now that I’ve allowed myself to become distracted and off-track.  I’ve used them as excuses why I couldn’t do this or needed to do that, even when they weren’t really excuses.

But something I heard at church Wednesday night changed my perspective completely.

“We do what we want to do.”

Such a simple, small sentence with enormous power behind it. 

How often have I been going to bed late because I wanted to play a computer game? How often have I put aside time spent in my Bible or my Bible study to do something else, to read something else? How often have I slept in late because I didn’t feel like dragging myself out of bed early just to exercise?

Too often. More often than I can count, actually.  If you’re anything like me (human, that is) then this is probably hitting a little too close to home in at least one area of your life.

So today when my alarm went off and I found myself wide awake, I knew what I needed to do.  Turn it off and turn over and snuggle into hubby to sleep for another 45 minutes, snoozing the alarm every 9 minutes.   Okay, that’s what I’d normally have done, but not today.  I drug myself out of bed, dusted off my morning playlist, plugged in the iPod to sync/charge, and did 10 minutes of some simple crunches and lunches.  {I know it’s not a marathon, but after so many months of inactivity I found it best to start simple.}

Now I sit here with you and a hot cup of coffee, feeling somewhat awake and refreshed, ready to face the day.  Or that could be residue from a day off work yesterday spent with good friends and beautiful weather. 😉

So what exactly has held me so captive all these many months you ask?

Homeschooling a 14 year old.

Less than a week after my last post in mid-January, Andy made a poor choice that resulted in HUGE consequences at school.  After a week of prayer, discussion, and debate looking at our options, we felt that we had to do what we had to do as his parents, and we withdrew him from public school.  It wasn’t an easy decision, and trying to pick up the pieces midway through a school year after 8.5 years of public schooling wasn’t an easy task, but it was the right one for him and for us. My only regret is that we didn’t do it sooner!

This is one of those times where I can so clearly see our Heavenly Father’s handwriting all over the situation.  My path of journey into His Word and obedience to Him had led me to a wealth of homeschooling information and contacts ready at my fingertips when the decision was made.  Manny, as the primary at-home parent, bears the bulk of the day-to-day teaching and oversight and now sees and understands my feelings about Andy and ADD.  We’re finally working together and between the three of us, we’re figuring it out and getting things under control.  While not the way I expected my prayers to be answered, I cannot deny that they were answered.

We joined THSC and a local homeschool group. I’ve made some good friends and joined a Made to Crave Bible study with some of the other moms, and Andy has made some good friends near his age too.  We’ve started attending a new church and I’m really liking it.  He’s a good pastor, with sermons that are relevant to the world we live in but clearly soaked in and backed up by the Lord’s Word. He’s not afraid to call you out and step on toes and tell you how you should really be living life in today’s world.

And that’s what led me back to right now.  A sermon on Wednesday night about raising up the next generation, and a simple statement about how we do what we want to do.  If we give ourselves or our children a choice, they will take the easy out.  It’s time to stop giving a choice, stop giving an out when there shouldn’t be one, and start doing what we know we are called to do.

For me, that is working on my obedience to Him.  It should not be a choice to get up a little early in the morning  so I have time to exercise and spend in His Word, or in worship to Him. It should not be a choice as to whether I go to my Bible study that requires obedience in my food choices or a game night with hubby and friends, when any other night of the week could also be a game night.  It should not be a choice whether I live and model myself as a Godly woman so my children will desire to be Godly men and marry Godly women someday.

So why give myself one?


Posted by on April 20, 2012 in Faith, Food & Fitness, Homeschooling



6 responses to “Choices, or the lack thereof

  1. Honey

    April 20, 2012 at 6:54 am

    Glad to see you back! I have a lot of progress I need to make myself.

    • Bobbey M

      April 20, 2012 at 10:14 am

      Thank you! I’m always up for helping out as an accountability partner. Just let me know!

  2. Honey

    April 21, 2012 at 8:28 pm

    so how would we do this accountability partner thing? I’ve never done that before, but I do need someone!

    • Bobbey M

      April 22, 2012 at 10:25 am

      Its’ easy. You tell me what it is you want me to keep up with, and we check in with each other at whatever frequency we decide on to make sure it’s being done. We can text, email, IM, FB, check in here or on your blog, tweet, whatever works for you.

      For example, a daily IM saying you did your 20 minutes cardio and drank 8 glasses of water. An email 2x a week saying you finished reading whatever Bible chapters or book of the month. If I don’t hear from you, I contact you.

      It’s very easy, and very casual. Sometimes it helps good habits to start and bad habits to be broken simply by knowing that there there’s an unbiased person out there that will bug you about doing what it is you said you wanted to do and encourage you to push on when it’s tough to make it happen.

      ~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Have a Blessed Day! Bobbey

      0:-) Be the wheat among the weeds… Stop plowing, start planting and see the harvest!

      Blog: Coffee and Caramel Facebook: Coffee & Caramel Twitter: @bobbeym Facebook: Bobbey Martinez

      “But I trust in your unfailing love. I will rejoice because you have rescued me. I will sing to the Lord because he is good to me.” Proverbs 13:5-6 (NLT)

  3. schales4874

    April 25, 2012 at 10:42 pm

    Don’t you just love when God does that? Small phrase HUGE impact! Keep hanging in, I really needed that boost and spiritual spanking. Sorry you’ll miss Saturday, we will miss you too.


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